Why men have affairs?
Chat about a loaded subject that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Funny thing, affairs have been going on ever since the beginning of the world. Extramarital affairs can be fraught with problems, cause sorrow, and other troubles. Also you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness thing, funds, age difference, religious upbringing, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I shall classify an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, married date.
Why do women have affairs? There are as many answers as there are seek affairs. I think generally though it is only the human condition, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and fun, and sex makes us get away the real world for a brief period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone can switch the craving on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos society has erected against married dating. For many individuals the yearnings will defeat their worries and make them risk the wrath of not only their family, but society as well. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is awfully good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not hurt your spouse or anybody else? You would need to lessen the hazard you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest grouping, gigantic actually. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they are comfy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the children to consider. Your assets are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay jointly besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them implementing the sex act, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair sometimes solves the trouble while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Neglect, sorrowfully this is a regular groung I fear. One or the other, usually the gentleman is sexually neglecting his lady for a tones of reasons. As a male I really am thankful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them obtainable to us guys of romance, making them “milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, maybe caring is not here, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Maybe we have just developed apart, our general interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is conflicting of what you want. Could be I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they seek the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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